I’m feeling particularly pensive as I write this. I’m not sure what it is exactly, although I have some suspicions. I see changes in my life in the future, and I think it may be worrying me.
Some years ago, actually for a blog for a company I worked for, I wrote about how resistant people can be to change. I was specifically talking about Facebook – do you remember Facebook updating to the new style it is today? I saw complaint after complaint. People didn’t want it to change.
But it happened nonetheless. Maybe some people revolted and stopped using Facebook as a result, but it wasn’t enough to stop Facebook.
It’s amazing how quickly we become complacent and comfortable with something, and how we resistant change. But change is a normal part of life. I recently finished “Who Moved My Cheese?” by Spencer Johnson, M.D. – a very timely book – and so much of what I was thinking about was addressed in the book.
Change is kind of weird, because sometimes I’m all for change, and other times not so much. Take moving, for instance: I moved enough times as a child that now I see it as an adventure. It’s a chance to start again, to see new places, and meet new people. I find moving hard but exciting and full of things to learn and new opportunities. It’s easy to see God’s hand at work when you move and meet exceptional people in other states. I suspect I will have a difficult time staying in one place for too long because of my experiences.
However, I struggle with change in other areas of my life. I suspect it has to do with these areas:
- Experience. The more times you do something – such as change – the more comfortable you become with it. I’ve moved more times than I have done other things, so I’m more familiar with what to expect with moving, and I know that moving doesn’t mean the end of the world.
- Mindset. Optimism would be another word for this, and it’s something that “Who Moved My Cheese?” addresses: how you think about change. Instead of casting change in a negative light (“I need a job but there aren’t any jobs,” or “We need to move but there’s nothing we like in our price range,”), try to focus on the positives. “I have to change jobs. Even if I don’t find anything in my field of study, this will be a great opportunity to learn something new” is an optimistic mindset on the same situation, which helps with the change. “We need to move, and since we’re not finding anything nice in our price range, how about we pick a place that’s even cheaper so we save more money, knowing we’re going to just move again in a few years?” These are just some examples of mindset. For me, I have a good mindset when it comes to moving, but less so for other areas of my life.
- Sense of Control. This is a false sense of control, but it’s there nonetheless. I can’t explain why I’d want more control in some areas of my life compared to others, but I do. It’s as if I want to stay in the comfort and familiar places because I falsely believe it grants me more control over the situation in those areas.
- Trust in God. I would be lying if I said I trust God with all areas of my life equally. It doesn’t take me long to see that where I’m resisting change I have the least trust and faith that God is handling the matter.
There are many great pieces of information to “Who Moved My Cheese?” and if you haven’t read the book, I highly recommend it. If you’re facing change in some area of your life in the near future, read this book.
How do you deal with change? Do you have any areas of your life that you handle change well, and other areas where it’s a struggle?